John W. James
Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve
Where were you when I needed you?
The saddest question we ever hear is, "Where were you when I needed you?"
That's what people ask when they find out what we do in helping grievers. We're presenting helpful and accurate information on this site, at the time you need it most, with the hope that you'll never need to ask that question.
It's an honor and a sad privilege to be addressing you, knowing that each of you has recently experienced the death of someone important to you. We also know some of you are reading this because of your care and concern for someone who is confronted by the death of someone important in their life.
We bring our personal experience in dealing with the deaths of people who were important to us, and our professional know-how in helping grievers for more than 30 years. We'll help you distinguish between the "raw grief" that is your normal and natural reaction to the death, and the equally normal "unresolved grief" that relates to the unfinished emotions that are part of the physical ending of all relationships.
A basic reality for most grieving people is difficulty concentrating or focusing. With that in mind, we asked Tributes.com to print our articles in a large type font to make them easier to read. Sharing our concern for grieving people, they agreed.
From our hearts to yours,
John & Russell
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Guide For Loss eBook
The Impact of Grief During the Holiday Season
In this sixth installment of the Tributes.com Grief Recovery Webinar Series, Russell Friedman, the co-creator of The Grief Recovery Method, gives helpful guidance for grieving people who are dealing with the emotions generated during the Holiday Season. This session will be helpful for those who are entering the Holidays for the first time since someone important to them has died, and even if the death occurred a long time ago.
The video topics include:
- The empty seat at the dinner table is a massive reminder of who's not there
- Family rituals that also point out who is missing
- Learn what to say, because not saying anything about the loss can make grievers feel even worse
- Creating a connection with the grieving person helps them participate instead of isolating at this most painful time
There is a 30-second delay at the beginning of the webinar replay
September 12th, 2013
Death of a Child — Unfulfilled Hopes, Dreams and Expectations
In this fifth installment of the Tributes.com Grief Recovery Webinar Series, Russell Friedman, the co-creator of The Grief Recovery Method, explores the emotions surrounding the death of a child and helps the listener begin to uncover the path to recovery. It is also helpful for anyone who has friends or relatives who have experienced the death of a child of any age.
While a still-birth or death at any point after a child is born is obviously devastating for parents, siblings, and other family and friends, miscarriage is a grief event that society often doesn’t acknowledge. This webinar addresses miscarriage and also delves into the heartbreak of infertility and the inability to create the family you have dreamed of. The webinar covers the specific topics below as well as questions that were submitted by participants prior to the live event:
- Our relationships with our children begin at conception, and sometimes long before
- Grief is normal and natural but we don’t always know what to do with our broken hearts
- The importance of completing the unique relationship before trying again
- Dealing with the well-intentioned but unhelpful things that people say
June 13th, 2013
Death of a Parent — Moving from Grief to Recovery
In this fourth installment of the Tributes.com Grief Recovery Webinar Series, Russell Friedman, the co-creator of The Grief Recovery Method, explores the emotions surrounding the Death of a Parent.
Most of us will experience the death of our parents. Although our connections with our parents started before we can consciously remember, those relationships established a great deal about what we think and believe and much of how we live our lives. It is no wonder that their deaths affect us with so much emotion. The webinar covers the specific topics below as well as questions that were submitted by participants prior to the live event:
- Every Relationship Is Unique – No One Knows How You Feel!
- When Is It Time To Begin To Recover?
- Keeping Fond Memories But Shedding The Pain
March 28th, 2013
Death of a Spouse — Moving from Grief to Recovery
In this third installment of the Tributes.com Grief Recovery Webinar Series, Russell Friedman, the co-creator of The Grief Recovery Method, explores the emotions surrounding the Death of a Spouse and begins to uncover the path to recovery.
November 13, 2012
Helping Others Navigate the Journey of Grief Recovery
We all wish we knew better ways to talk to our friends and family who've been affected by the death of someone important to them. Many people also want to learn how they can actually help people deal with the overwhelming impact of death and other significant emotional losses.
In the following webinar Russell Friedman, the co-creator of The Grief Recovery Method, introduces some of the myths that inhibit us from talking openly about our grief and the grief of the people we love.
- Learn some very practical and helpful things to say in situations that may have baffled you in the past.
- Become aware of many of the unhelpful things NOT to say that inhibit the people you know who are struggling with a loss.
- Find out about the Grief Recovery Method Certification Training program that’s open to anyone with a genuine desire to help grieving people
April 10, 2012
Grief: A Normal & Natural Reaction to Loss
Grieving people often feel lost and alone, as if no one cares or wants to listen to them. Most people don’t know recovery from significant emotional loss is even possible.
In this helpful and hopeful webinar with Russell Friedman, Tributes.com Grief Expert and Executive Director of the Grief Recovery Institute answers these and many more questions:
- Is it okay to feel sad when your heart is broken?
- Can time heal a broken heart?
- Is it better to be strong or to be human?
- Is keeping busy helpful?
- I’ve always heard “Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone.” Should I avoid being around people when I’m sad?
What you learn may surprise you. It will open your mind and your heart to the possibility of recovery and give you hope. Click below to watch.